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Richbee's avatar

Is it the oil from the drilling rig that lubricates the relationship?

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Kati Kate Katherine's avatar

If I'm honest, I have to admit that in some ways it truly is. ðŸĪŠ

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Nuezen's avatar

Kati, what a raw and honest piece. It really shows the complexities and struggles of relationships, especially when communication and boundaries are lacking. Thanks for this 🙏

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Kati Kate Katherine's avatar

"Complexities and struggles" is a very generous way of putting it. Last night the words that came to mind were "turmoil and despondency."

Thank you so much for your time and your comment!

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Kate's avatar

Familiar and also stunningly unfamiliar territory covered here. Thanks for sharing.

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Kati Kate Katherine's avatar

Thank YOU for reading AND commenting!

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Mary Roblyn's avatar

Boundaries and communication are, I’ve found, the most difficult areas to navigate in a relationship. What has made it hard for me is the fact that I grew up in a family that could not manage these things. I had to learn them later in life. This piece is raw and honest. Kati, you are a talented writer. You have a gift for sharing your struggles and joys, without denying one or the other. Big hugs to you.ðŸĨ°âĪïļðŸ™

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Kati Kate Katherine's avatar

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Hugs right back to you!

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Miriam Rachel's avatar

Wow thanks for sharing such a vulnerable piece. This was very raw. Sadly my husband and I are in a roommate marriage after 25 years and it is because we failed at communication and I was an extreme people pleaser (he is too) so we did not even exert boundaries. I have them firmed up now, and he does respect them. However, resentments have built over the years. I am not sure if leaving will ever be realistic because our finances are intertwined. The bright side is that he gives me the space I need, as I virtually do my own thing all of the time anyway.

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